This evening I was talking to Richie Allen live on Talk Radio Europe about working in a job you really do not enjoy.  If you are in this situation there are a few things you can do to change this feeling by starting to be proactive about earning a living – by doing what you love.

1. Make a list of what you want in work as opposed to what you don’t want
2. Think and brainstorm ways in which you can get into this field or industry
3. Speak to experts in the field and trusted friends – there is nothing wrong in asking for direction from trusted sources
4. Challenge any negative thoughts you have about making a change
5. Think about what you have to gain by taking this step
6. Empower yourself to be be brave
7. Seek inspiration from people that have made it in this field
8. Create a backward plan  from your goal till now, think about what you need to know and who you need to speak to at each stage
9. Set small achievable goals and take one step at a time
10. Celebrate success when you make progress

This morning I was on Sky News discussing National ‘call in sick day’.  A study has found that people are feeling a bit feb up with life lately and put it down to a combination of: post Christmas blues, burn out and summer seeming like its just too far away. 32 million people in the UK would have called in sick today because of these feelings.  If your feeling like you can’t face another day at work read the tips below to help you fight through the grey and spring into action asap.

1. Address the issue of ‘why’ you don’t want to go into work.  If there is a problem at work – communicate to solve it, if you have no energy look at your diet and try and get some early nights so you feel better
2. Think about the impact of your absence.  When you call in sick the work does not suddenly disappear, inevitably your team or your manager may have to pick things up on your behalf. Ask yourself if you think this is fair and if you really should ‘call in’
3. Take responsibility for your feelings.  If you are feeling down think about what you can do to turn this around.  Blaming your employee or other people will not change the way you feel.  Ultimately, you create how you feel and if you become proactive about making yourself feel better, the likelihood of you being positive increases
4. Do not wait for perfection, nothing is perfect.  If you hold out for things to be smooth sailing you will be  waiting forever.  Try to see the good in every situation and think, most importantly, what am I learning from this?
5. Create motivating and uplifting goals for yourself.  Have a small daily goal and reward yourself for achieving this at the end of the day.  Start simple and work up to achieving something that is out of your comfort zone.  You will feel amazing for it

On April 10^th I ran an intimate coaching session in London, all attendee’s were unique and magical in their own way.  I was energized throughout knowing and sensing that the delegates had come with an open energy and attitude that would provide them with the many benefits attached to the development seminar.  As we progressed through the day we explored various tools that were easy to understand and simple to apply (all the techniques created a positive impact that resulted in nothing but encouraging personal growth for all).  The core learning was that we all possess the required tools we need to achieve whatever it is that we want in life.  All we have to do is fine tune our mind to achieve our goals.  Nothing is impossible and sometimes gentle direction can provide a way forward.  Having this direction from an experienced professional helps to obtain clarity as situations can consume the human mind for long periods of time often burdening frequently with heavy emotion.

We started the session assessing what was working and not working in life (you can do this at home through meditation and simple reflection).  Often in the chaos of our busy life’s we can push our thoughts down like a beach ball under water in the hope that these thoughts and emotions do not come back.  What typically happens is that there are situations and pressures that build up one after another in our minds.  These ultimately cause the beach ball (thoughts) to come up again, often in an aggressive way.  This often results in a not so pretty way and makes up feel even heavier.  Once you get into the discipline of recognizing what is going on in your mind, day-to-day, you are able to choose what you do with these situations and negative feelings.  If you do not acknowledge your thoughts they will always linger in your subconscious until you decide to authentically let them go and move forward.

Another technique we practiced during the development session was the art of writing things down.  You could choose to write down all your feelings too, this is called a ‘brain dump’.  By writing all your feelings you discharge that negative energy from yourself – onto the paper, and you realize what you are thinking.  By doing this your self-awareness increases and you are then in a position to choose what you want to do going forward.  Often we can overwork things in our minds to the point we feel paralyzed by our thoughts. Do something for yourself and start to acknowledge your internal energy.  Ask yourself, am I positive or negative?  You will feel happier when you start to control your thoughts.

In late June I will be running another intimate session, contact me: mamta@ thinkspalondon.com as soon as possible to secure your place and start working towards a happier future for you.  Follow me  also on www.twitter.com/thinkspalondon for frequent inspirational updates.  Lastly, register your email address on www.thinkspalondon.com to receive helpful articles straight to your inbox.

Good luck all, I send you peace and energy always.

On April 10th I ran an intimate coaching session in London with 8 special attendee’s who were all unique and magical in their own way.  I was energised throughout knowing and sensing that the delegates had come with an open energy and attitude that would provide then with the many benefits attached to personal development.  As we progressed through the day we explored various tools that were easily to understand and simple to apply, nevertheless all resulting in a positive impact on personal growth.  The core learning was an appreciation that we all possess the required tools to achieve whatever we put our mind to.  Nothing is impossible and sometimes all one needs is some gentle direction that can help obtain clarity over situations that consume a lot of emotion and can seem like minefields.

The first thing we did was assess what is working and not working in life.  You can do this at home through meditation and simple reflection.  Often in the chaos of our busy life’s we can push our thoughts down like a beach ball under water in the hope that these thoughts and emotions do not come back.  What typically happens is that there are situations and pressures that build up one after  the other  in our minds, these ultimately cause the beach ball to come up again (in a surprisingly aggressive way).  Once you get into the discipline of recognising what is going on with you day to day, you are able to choose what you do with these situations and negative feelings.  If you do not acknowledge your thoughts they will always linger in your subconscious until you decide to authentically let them go.

You may choose to write down all your feelings, this is called a ‘brain dump’.  By writing all your feelings down you discharge that negative energy from yourself – onto the paper, and you realise what it is you are thinking.  By doing this your self awareness increases and you are in a position to then choose what you want to do going forward.  Often we can overwork things in our minds to the point we feel paralysed by our thoughts. Do something for yourself and start to acknowledge you and your internal energy.  You will feel more in control and happier when you do.  In June I will be running another intimate Mindset session, contact me (mamta@thinkspalondon.com) asap to secure your place.

Good luck, I send you peace and energy.

This week I have collaborated with Elizabeth Grier to get your mind focused on saving.  A lot of fear is attached to the concept of ‘finance’ and this week we want to encourage you to embrace what you have so that you can save for a more prosperous future.  Remember in life you were born with two fears: falling over and loud noises – so every other fear you have is self created.  Challenge your fear and start to embrace the possibility of having a more fruitful financial life.  Read the tips below to start saving now.

Saving is for everyone. One cannot emphasize how important it is for your financial well-being. It may be understandable that some of you might think “I don’t make enough money to save”, or “I barely can pay the mortgage/rent”, or “saving is a luxury”.  Perhaps you are already saving, but would like to save more. This article is to explain that saving is possible since there are always small yet impactful ways to cut expenses in your daily lives which can amount to substantial annual savings.  Think about what you could do with the savings! Even saving £20 a week accumulates to over £80 a month or the equivalent of £1040 a year! (£20 a week x 52 weeks a year).
Here are a couple of examples:
1) Instead of buying a coffee or tea with milk at the coffeeshop en route to work or during your break, you can bring a thermos to work instead and make your own tea or coffee. If you have 2 teas a day during an average workweek of 5 days a week, that is 10 teas a week. If you assume a tea with milk at a coffeeshop is around £2, then that is £20 a week. You can instead buy a box of 50 tea bags for around £2.80 which is around 5.7 pence a tea, or £2.28 a month for your workweek tea drinking habit versus £80/month if you take tea out, so you save over £1000 a year if you bring and make tea at work!
Often there it may be deemed fashionable to be holding a paper coffee cup from certain stores, think about investing in a flask from that coffee shop if you so wish. Alternatively you could create your own fashion and not worry about what others think.  Just be mindful of all the saving you can make and what you could actually do with the money you save.
My father always told me to save for a rainy day. If we live impulsively we may not have enough capital to support us when we really need it.  Always ask yourself twice if you really need something before you put your money down for it.  Little things add up, so be mindful of every cost.  Be around people who like to save and not spend impulsively, this will have a positive influence on you and ensure you are mindful of saving.
2) Further savings can be had if you choose to bring your lunch to work. Instead of going out to buy a sandwich and a bag of crisps for £5 a day, that is £25 a workweek, or £1300 a year on a simple take-away lunch! Instead, you can buy a loaf of bread, cheese slices, mayonnaise and tomatoes, and pack an apple (healthier option) instead of crisps, for a packed lunch. On an annual basis, it was calculated that a packed lunch of a sandwich and an apple would cost approximately £155. If you were to pack a lunch instead of buying one, you could save over £1100 a year!
You could receive similar savings by subscribing on an annual basis to a magazine or a newspaper instead of buying it on a daily basis. You usually receive significant savings that way.
Remember that all of the power we have comes from within and is therefore under our control, so get into the driving seat of your finances and drive yourself towards a comfortable life.  Create a vision board of what this could look like and start practicing the great tips above to create the life that you want.  In June I plan to run a work shop entitled ‘Achieve the life that you want and more’ and we will be covering how you can create more saving and draw abundance into your life.  To sign up and take advantage of an early bird discount email: Mamta at think spa London dot com.
We hope that these examples outlined in the article will give you the motivation and the belief in yourself that you can save. Everything is possible and never forget that the longest journey begins with the smallest steps.

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This week’s article is going to focus on how you can remain objective and calm regardless of any drama and politics that may surround you in life.  It is very easy to say yet difficult to carry out. However, if you take the time to invest in your own development by reflection, meditation and contemplation, the points below can help you feel be in direct command of your life.

If you have more control you realise how many choices you have, you can be proactive and self-directed. If you  reactive, you limit your growth and any potential for a brighter, happier future. Take note of the points below to enable you to get into the driving set of your life and feel in charge of you.

The first point to note is that any energy you spend worrying about the situation takes away any potential strength you could use to find your way out of it. People who play games gain much satisfaction when others are affected. Most of their malicious acts are triggered by the motivation to cause a stir or be controversial. When you choose not to react, they loose, you win. If you keep distant and consistent with this, your lack of reaction will eventually bore the trouble maker (s). Eventually they start scheming with somebody else as they quickly realise that they will not get a reaction from you.

However tempting it is you should not stoop down to the individuals’ level. If you decide to get even and play the aggressor at their own game you will simply frustrate yourself, compromise your own good values and again choose to waste your energy rather than conserve it for your own betterment.  Remind yourself of the following mantra – ‘what goes around comes around’.  Eventually, the source of trouble will get what they deserve as proven by quantum physicists – like attracts like.

Also, related to the above point, do not consume your energy discussing the individual or drama negatively.  This may give you short-term satisfaction and make you feel as though you are letting off steam, however, backstabbing conversations, moaning and complaining will not get you anywhere.  When you engage in these sorts of activities you create and invite a higher frequency of dilemmas into your life.  Soon nothing seems good enough and potentially you can find yourself stuck in a rut of constant complaint, inevitably annoying yourself and everyone around you.

Make sure you think before you speak or react.  One impulsive, off the cuff statement or act can definitely damage your reputation and credibility.  Not only will you embarrass yourself you may ultimately make the situation worse and then before you know you will start feeling even more helpless about the situation and more out of control.  Remember silence is golden, especially when you are angry, tired or around people that do not make you feel great.  You will be thankful that you did not react.

Most importantly, speak to someone you trust and respect about your dilemma.  If your situation is causing you to lose sleep you should ideally turn to someone professional.  A great service that is provided at www.thinkspalondon.com will make sure that you are supported by a trusted coach to help you deal effectively with your dilemma.  A professional coach at think spa can offer great advice, counsel and ultimately act as a sounding board.

At the end of the day, you should respect yourself and your feelings; therefore professional support is crucial if you are troubled by any such situation in your life.  You may even contemplate undertaking a day seminar with www.thinkspalondon.com.  Go to the website and register your interest, the sessions are conducted in a small groups or as one to one’s you choose what is best for you.  Remember there is always a positive way forward but you are the only one that can help yourself and change your life and circumstances for the better.

Good Luck!

Feeling amazing shouldn’t be hard work; it’s the little things we do that can make a huge difference to our general well being and state of mind.  This article is all about the simple things that you can adopt in your life to help you to start feeling amazing the moment you choose to.

• Try going to bed one hour earlier than usual for at least two weeks. Instantly you will notice how much more vibrant and alive you feel.
• Identify three things that you can do that will enhance your mood today.
• Give yourself 15 minutes to write down why you value all your close friends and family.
• Try to go 7 days without complaining about anything or anyone.  Thinking and talking negatively will make you feel the opposite of amazing. Regardless of how good you may look on the outside, your negative energy will take away any potential spring that you could have had in your step!
• Spend an evening of watching your favourite movies, this is called movie therapy.  Doing this can support you in appreciating the relationships you have in your life and further help you to clarify real life solutions to any problems your may have.
• Organise a simple social evening with close friends or family.  It doesn’t have to be a special occasion or a birthday; it just gives you an opportunity to show that you are spending time because you want to, not because you have to.
• Create a small space just for you and spend up to 10 – 15 minutes there every day.  Surround your space with items that inspire peace in your mind.  Scented candles, aromatherapy oils, dried flowers are all great to start with.
• Make sure you recharge for 15 minutes before attempting any home tasks after a long day out.  This discipline will help you to move into the rest of your evening feeling relaxed and refreshed.
• Sign up for a day seminar at www.thinkspaLondon.com and explore these tips in detail and create a plan of action for you!

In life if you do not create time for breaks be it 5 minutes or 5 days, you risk your health and wellbeing.  All too often we worry about the end result, get embarrassed by our efforts and give up.  True change is about the process.  Be your own best friend not your own worst enemy.  Feel great that you can start being amazing today.  Good Luck!

Weddings are recognised as one of the most prestigious occasions that take place in a family. The most important day for the bride, groom and of course parents. This special article is going to help you manage your mind so that you are stress free and supportive to the ones you love ensuring everyone is happy. An important analogy to consider is that the journey is just as important as the destination. All too often we tie ourselves up in knots of anxiety in the pursuit to create a wonderful wedding. We may shout and scream, hold grudges and be totally unproductive. Going down this road guarantees the day will be stressful and unhappy. Regardless of whether you are the bride, groom or the in-laws, read on for great tips and reflections that will make sure you stay positive despite the chaos. Firstly, draw strength and develop armour. Have a shield of protection, an energy made up of all your strengths.

Planning a wedding is tough and when you are operating out of your comfort zone this could be even tougher. Knowing your strengths will help you to find the tasks that you can complete with no issue. Identify the strengths of your supporters. Who can you rely on to help you do things with success? Knowing the qualities of those around you helps you to delegate and spread out the tasks you have. Think about what is in your control, what can you actively drive, influence, remember the chaos that ensues cannot be prevented or ignored; it simply has to be lived through so make sure you stay positive. Anxiety is a massive issue that many families undergo when planning a wedding. The best way to deal with anxiety is through activity. What actions can you take to manoeuvre yourself out of this state of negativity and progress positively into a place of calm? Think about what is in your gift now, try to keep your thoughts and energy focused on the present. Looking far too forward and focussing on the finer details of the day and what will go wrong will erode your confidence. Develop your resilience and notice what you say to yourself and what you choose to take in from others, make sure you have the right energy around you. Be selective about whom you take advice from and everyone has opinions about weddings, remember it is your event so you create the rules and live by them. There is no right or wrong and you need to go with what you are most comfortable with. Surround yourself with triggers of inspiration and strength. Draw from these sources to add to your pot of confidence and esteem.

The only person you can change and control is you. Think about what you are going to do that will catapult you out of thinking negatively and worrying, and how will doing this help you leave your legacy on the big day. Now, work backwards and plan about what you need to do to create the impact that you want. If you have a long, stressful looking expression this will not inspire anyone with joy. If however you look like you are enjoying yourself, others will feed from this energy and will enjoy the day too. Visualise the end of the wedding day and think about what you would want people to say. People who come to seminars at think spa London dot-com find that the coaching sessions really help them; this is an option if you need non-judgmental, effective support, you may want to consider this fantastic option. When in the planning stages it is easy to snap and get irritated with the people you love.

Remember, every action has a reaction. Choose your attitude and realise the impact that you have on people. If you feel yourself getting mad, count to ten and take a deep breath. Remind yourself that strain and stress of wedding planning is temporary. It is impermanent so, try to scale yourself out of the problem and take a macro perspective on the issues it presents.

Be mindful of your impact and know that like attracts like, so if you are positive, positive things will come. When the wedding is over, life will continue on so do choose your attitude as you don’t want to look back and regret how you treated those around you. The next time you find yourself going through any wedding annoyances you can remind yourself that it won’t last. You can look at everything in history and feel secure in knowing that, no matter how bad things seem now, the problems won’t last forever. What a wonderful thing! Like all things, stress is impermanent. Think back to times you thought you would never get over the hurdles. Now think about exactly how you did. Reminding yourself of your resilience will pull you through even the most difficult times.

Lastly, recognize that you are not alone and take power from knowing that anyone involved with wedding planning is going through some sort of strain. Sometimes when you are down, you can feel isolated. Seek council in a friend or someone you trust so you can let it all out, pick up and move towards a positive way of being. When you open up you will find you get a boost of energy and strength to keep you going. You’ve got what it takes to be calm and happy regardless of the chaos. You have so much to look forward to. Good Luck!